It is not easy to set your self free from your anger. However, a study shows that most of diseases come from your own anger.
Anger can bring you to nervousness, depression, worry, and insomnia. By forgiving and say I am sorry, you have taken back all your control toward your life. It also leads you to a positive thinking and decreases your blood pressure.
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In a study of The Stanford-Ireland Hope Project, Frederic Luskin PhD dan Carld Thoresen PhD investigated the impact of forgiveness that involves 17 men and women whose family has been murdered. They are given a training of forgiveness. Within a week, 35% of the respondents tell that their headache has slowly cured and 20% tell that their depression symptoms have cured.
A lot of people say that giving forgiveness is not an easy thing. There are 5 ways of giving forgiveness like what has been elaborated by Joan Borysenko PhD, the writer of Inner Peace for Busy People.
1. Understand the meaning of forgiveness
Generally, people are not willing to give forgiveness because that also means that they admit that other people have not done mistakes. Joan Borysenko PhD says that saying "I forgive you" is about releasing anger in you. It also means that you set yourself free from anything that can hurt you.
2. Sadness
For totally forgiving another, you have to feel the sadness. It takes time but if you have released your anger, you can feel ease step by step. The time in which you do not always remember your past will come and you will set you free from being broken hearted.
3. Do not wait for apology.
Sometimes someone that hurts us does not realize that. It is also possible that they do not understand and have empathy. Apology from them can heal your pain, but deciding not to hope them asks your forgiveness will give you the same effect.
4. Try to understand the reason
The fact shows that bad behavior is the consequences of labile emotion. It is proven by lot of criminal that have experienced physical and psycho abuse when they were kids. Empathy can help you cure your anger and change your life.
5. Welcome the future
life is a place where you learn a lot of things, including the pain. You can not avoid pain, but you can choose to get out of that painful situation. Choosing to release your revenge and move forward with your life will make you become a new individual. It will give you a maturity and heart for another person.
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